We women sure are hard on ourselves, aren’t we?
I can’t speak for everyone, but I know that if I’m ever given a compliment, the first thing I do is deflect it.
“Oh, you’re a good mom!”
“Who me? Oh, well, I try, but…” There’s always a BUT. Some reason why I feel like I’m just not pulling it off. As a mom, as a wife, as a business owner. As anything.
It seems that this “not feeling like enough” is a common affliction. In fact, the Mrs., and all-female rock band, recently asked a group of women how they felt when they looked in the mirror. They didn’t like the answer they got from the vast majority of women, so they decided to do something to help change it.
Please, please take a moment to watch this Mirror video they made based on the responses from the women they asked. It brought tears to my eyes, and it inspired their new song, Enough.
The Mrs. will be releasing their debut EP this fall. Although the music may sound like what’s being played on pop radio right now, the lyrics tell a different story. As women in their late thirties/early forties, songs about teenage heartbreak and wild nights clubbing weren’t things they could relate to. They decided to write about their own lives - like the challenge of juggling a career, marriage, motherhood and friendships, while still trying to maintain their own identity. They set out to foster a connection through their music with other women at the same place in their lives. The Mrs. is comprised of drummer Andra Liemandt, lead vocalists/guitarists Mandy Prater and Jennifer Zavaleta, vocalist/keyboardist Larissa Ness, and bassist Jenny Mason.
I've been asked to support this #ImEnough campaign by sharing the video above along with a selfie that promotes the same message. Of all the things I've ever promoted here on this page, this is one of the closest to my heart, so I was proud to get on board.
My mirror decal arrived today and I immediately started thinking about how to take a good selfie. How to get creative. I started thinking about what I should wear, whether I should wear makeup, what to do with my hair.
...and then I stopped, dropped everything, and just clicked.
Because, in the words of the Mrs., I've had enough of that critical eye in the mirror. Enough doubting myself. Enough of those negative voices in my head. This is ME, and that's more than enough, right? (I'm trying to convince myself. These things don't happen overnight...)
And, because she was watching, you get a bonus spur-of-the-moment, middle-of-the-day, hanging-with-the-baby selfie! Because life is hectic and busy and it's easy to get overwhelmed and let the world tell us what we should be, but in the end, we have to remember that these little ones are watching us!
The more she sees me believe that #ImEnough, the more she'll believe that she is, too.
Help me celebrate the ENOUGH movement along with the Mrs. Band! Share your own #ImENOUGH selfie on your social channels, and leave me a comment with the URL so I can share it, too!
How do you remind yourself that you're enough?