I spend so much time thinking about motherhood and trying to be the most conscious, balanced, and present mother I can be to my son, that I sometimes forget that parenthood isn’t all about me. There is another realm of parenting out there with its own intricacies and nuances that make it quite different than my role, and very, very special.
I consider myself extremely fortunate that I’ve married a man that is a fantastic, engaged father, and I have a pretty top-notch dad of my own. They’re pretty great guys to have in my life, especially considering I’m raising a son who will likely be a father himself someday. Given the role models he has, I’m pretty confident that he’ll grow up knowing what a truly loving daddy is, and that just tickles me to no end.
So, I guess that’s what Father’s Day is all about, right? Telling these men that mean the world to me that I love them, I respect them, I value them, and I hope my son grows up to be like them. I really hope they already know, but I’ll tell them again today anyway.
My message to my husband? Thank you. Thank you for knowing that we were too young at 17 and 21, and for letting me go, even when I didn’t want you to. To college, to learn, to grow, to figure out who I was, and what I wanted. And now, almost 20 years to the day after you broke my heart (oh, the fragile heart of a 17 year old! ) I also thank you for getting smart and knowing when we ran back into each other that the time was right for us, for our family. And thank you from the bottom of my heart for the single most important thing in the world – our baby boy. I love you, and I can’t wait to see you turn into an even more incredible daddy as the years go by!
My message to my dad? Also a thank you. For more than I could ever write in a simple blog post. Thank you for being a dad that has never wavered throughout my entire life, a dad that has taught me so much and been there without fail every single time I’ve needed you, a dad that showed me that you don’t call off work and that the moulding should always line up straight. And now, for spending so much time with my son. Your influence will undoubtedly make him a better man. Your support (especially at times like I wrote about here) means the world to me, and you couldn’t be more of a superhero if you had an actual cape and funny tights.
Happy Father’s Day to the best two daddies a girl could imagine. I love you guys!